How to Get a Girl to Like You.
If you’re new to online dating or if you’ve been in the game for some time, you know how frustrating it can be to send initial messages to girls without getting any response.
If you are like most guys, you may give up after the first attempt. Or, even if you stick it out for a bit, you will eventually give up, thinking to yourself, “What am I doing wrong? Is there some kind of secret to getting girls to respond to me? Why is this so frustrating?!”
I’m here to tell you that I feel your frustration! When did it become so difficult to talk to girls? Was there some kind of evolutional change to the way they think?
Although that thought may be entertaining, it is highly unlikely. So who’s to blame for this? Drum roll please………
Think about that for a minute.
Since the rise of the internet, there have been tons of online dating sites and social media platforms that have been conveniently giving girls endless options of their “ideal guy” to choose from.
This feeling like there are unlimited options has made it increasingly difficult for us to compete. The days of simple conversation starters like “Hey” or,”How’s your day been?” are long gone. And they’re not coming back either.
Let’s face it. You absolutely need to walk into the online dating world with ammunition up your sleeve. Rest assured, it’s not your fault that you may not have these “particular set of skills.” Those of you who have seen the movie Taken know what I’m talking about. 🙂
Fortunately, I have done some field research to effectively guide you in the direction of success. First, I’ve compiled a list of things NOT to say to a girl in an opening line of conversation. Take a look at what I’ve learned below:
I dislike when they instantly comment on my looks. I also hate when guys call me hun or sweetie or anything like that.
You might think that a girl would actually like that you’re complimenting her on her looks, but believe it or not, she hears these kinds of things ALL THE TIME. Please, stay away from any kind of “cutesy talk” as well because you most likely will never hear from her again.
Oh another thing is a lot of guys will message me to tell me how I could look more attractive. For example, I said hi to one guy and his exact response was, “Grow your hair long, wear more makeup, and fix your teeth. YAH WELCOME”
Although this is probably one of those rare instances where someone goes completely AWOL and says something that no girl would respond to, this conversation starter actually happened.
If you’re one of these people, then you need some serious fine tuning on your conversational skills. Lack of fine tuning will immediately result in a not so bright future for you in the online dating world!
Never leave it so they have nothing to respond to. Ask unique questions besides, “what’s up” or any variation of that. It’s boring and a million other guys already asked.
As I mentioned earlier, you want to stay away from vague, uninteresting things. Let me restate what was just said,
It’s boring and a million other guys already asked.
Did you get that?
Okay, so enough of what not to say to a girl. Let’s get to what will give you the highest chance of success for a girl showing interest in you!
If you want women to respond to you, you must show interest in their hobbies and ask questions that encourage the flow of the conversation.
This is so important because girls are always looking for something new and interesting. They don’t want boring. So don’t be that boring guy! Keep asking questions, and you’ll NEVER run out of things to say.
I like when a guy actually attempts to initiate normal conversation about something in my bio.
This may seem self explanatory. However, this is something that most girls say is overlooked. Girls don’t care about how much money you have, what kind of cars you drive, how nice of a house you have, etc. They care about what made you interested in them. Yeah, that sounds a little selfish on their part, but can you blame them? If they want entertainment, entertain them. Show them that you’re paying attention to more than just their photos.
By now your’e probably wondering if it’s really that simple. You may be saying to yourself, “All they want me to do is show interest in them?”
Well, there’s more to it than that. Keep in mind what not to say, however, and you’re on the right path.
The fastest way to online dating success?
Keep the conversation focused on them. Be unique and interesting. After all, there are hundreds, thousands of other messages that they are getting on a daily basis. Why should she respond to you? Answer that, and you’re way ahead of the game.