THE BREAK UP.
I get it: breakups are difficult.
No one likes to be the one to initiate a breakup, because you don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings.
But what about YOUR feelings?
Are you really willing to go through months, years, or even decades of emotional pain just because you don’t want to upset her?
You are probably that overly nice person.
You’re the person who would rather not mention all the complaining, the jealousy she expresses, the trivial arguments she tries to start….
The list goes on.
You probably grew up being told that it’s not nice to hurt other people’s feelings.
This could have been from family, friends, teachers…
While there is truth to that, you’ve conditioned yourself to hold onto that belief, and to carry it into every aspect of your life.
Whether or not you choose to believe it will not change the fact that it is affecting your emotional health.
The reality is that is you don’t have to put up with all of that.
HERE ARE 9 SIGNS THAT YOU SHOULD END YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HER:
- SHE GETS JEALOUS IF YOU FIND OTHER GIRLS ATTRACTIVE.
There’s nothing wrong with finding other girls attractive. After all, you find her attractive, right? It’s as if she thinks that she’s the only girl in the world that you should find attractive, and that otherwise it means that she’s somehow less attractive.
To make matters worse, she has a double standard, and suddenly she can comment on how hot she thinks the guy from The Bachelor is… RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU!
- SHE OBESESSIVELY ASKS YOU THE LAST NAME OF YOUR PREVIOUS GIRLFRIEND.
This is something that is best to consider early in the relationship. When your girlfriend constantly wants to know the last name of your previous girlfriend, it shows signs of insecurity on her part. You can bet that this will continue throughout the relationship unless you make the smart decision to ditch her now.
- YOU CHOOSE TO SPEND MORE TIME AT HOME OR WITH YOUR FRIENDS THAN WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND.
This shows that you are avoiding the problems in your relationship. She just won’t stop complaining, and you’d rather not be around her—which is understandable. Unless you end it now, you’d better make sleeping arrangements on your friend’s couch.
- SHE GETS MAD AT YOU WHEN SHE SEES A PHOTO OF YOU AND YOUR EX ON FACEBOOK, AND IT’S NOT EVEN ON YOUR PAGE.
This comes into play when you finally give her the last name of your ex, and she spies on her Facebook page. This should seem pretty obvious, but it may not be so obvious to some people.
- SHE “NEEDS” YOU TO BE WITH HER 24/7.
This shows obvious signs of insecurity and a lack of independence on her part. You’re supposed to be part of her life, not the whole thing.
- YOU START TO LOSE FOCUS ON YOUR OWN LIFE.
If you do give in to her demands and spend every day with her, you may start to lose your focus on your own goals, such as your college and career paths. You might even stop participating in activities that you once enjoyed, or seeing friends you used to hang out with.
- YOU FEEL LIKE YOU CAN’T EXPRESS YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU’RE AFRAID SHE’LL LASH OUT OR BE MISUNDERSTANDING.
There’s nothing more important in maintaining a healthy, loving relationship than the ability to freely express yourself to your partner, no matter the circumstances. If she’s not understanding of your emotions, then it’s time to break up with her.
- SHE SUSPECTS THAT YOU MAY BE CHEATING ON HER, EVEN THOUGH THERE’S NO EVIDENCE.
What’s a relationship without trust at its foundation? Don’t ask me. If she can’t even trust that you’re going home after hanging out with her, then she obviously has trust issues. That’s her problem, not yours.
- SHE’S NOT WILLING TO CHANGE.
You can consider this a last resort. Any one of these signs can be easily changed if she’s willing to make the change. If, for whatever reason, she is unwilling to do so, and you’ve exhausted all your options, then it’s time to break up with her.
Does any of this resonate with you? If it does, make the best choice for yourself and live free.