Fear Of Rejection: The Key to Meeting New Girls.

 

Fear Of Rejection.

If you’re wondering if you’re the only one who struggles with a fear of rejection, or even if you know other people who do struggle with these things, you know that the realization alone isn’t enough to overcome your problem.

Here’s the great thing about it: it’s a problem. And just like any problem, there’s a solution.

If you’ve ever been rejected by a girl, you probably know the negative feelings that accompany it.

You most likely feel, well—rejected. You may also feel shame, inadequacy, inferiority, loneliness—the list can go on.

Here’s what I’ve learned about the fear of rejection (or any fear in general).

YOUR BELIEFS AND THOUGHTS TRIGGER YOUR FEAR.

Think about that for a moment.

Okay.

Have you ever thought about why your friends never seem to have this problem (at least to your knowledge), but you do?

It’s because of their mindset about rejection. They may say to themselves, “Man, that sucks. She was really hot. Oh well, I guess I’ll move on to the next girl.”

You see, they don’t care if they get rejected because the thoughts they have after being rejected don’t allow them to have a fear of rejection. Sure, they may have been nervous to talk to that blonde bombshell, which everyone has experienced.

However, there’s a line between being nervous, which is a healthy emotion, and being neurotic.

CHALLENGE YOUR THOUGHTS WITH THESE MENTAL EXERCISES:

  1. First, and most importantly, you must realize what you’re telling yourself. Once you do, write these thoughts on a sheet of paper.
  2. Next, depending on the nature of these thoughts, you can do several things. You can:

– Ask a family member or a friend if they’ve ever had any of the thoughts you’ve listed.

– Visualize what you’re afraid will happen when you have any of these thoughts. Imagine walking up to a girl and being rejected. Make the situation as intense as possible, having the girl rip you to shreds with every possible thing she could say to you. Keep doing this until you realize that what you’re imagining is so ridiculous that you couldn’t possibly understand why you believed it in the first place. After all, girls aren’t that mean. 🙂 In fact, if a girl really did say the things that you imagined, it would be her problem, not yours.

– Do some field testing. For instance, if you think that every girl you talk to is going to reject you, then you can test that theory with an experiment in which you actually approach girls. This takes courage, but I promise that it will pay off for you.

– Ask yourself if there have been times when you weren’t rejected by a girl. If there have been, then you’ll figure out that you’re telling yourself something that isn’t true.

– Next, write down on a piece of paper more positive things to counteract the negative things you once believed.

Finally, go out there and start meeting some girls. 🙂

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How to Get a Girl to Like You: How to Text a Girl The Day After You Meet.

 

HOW TO GET A GIRL TO LIKE YOU.

If you thought that approaching a girl in public seemed difficult—maybe you thought that she was out of your league, although that never really makes much sense if you think about it— Pause…

Sorry about that. I tend to go off topic.

Say you met at girl at the mall, or at the bar, or wherever, and you managed to get her number.

Pat on the back. 🙂

So, what are you going to text her? 🙂

Here’s the great part. I’ve managed to fuck up many conversations via texting or whatever, and I was thinking the SAME thing that you’re thinking right now:

“What the hell did I say wrong?!”

Who knows? Who cares?

I’m about to share with you a few things that you need to know in order to maintain communication with a girl and to get her to like you after that first text.

GETTING A GIRL’S NUMBER SHOWS THAT SHE MAY BE INTERESTED IN YOU.

So don’t fuck that up, alright?!

Alright.

TEXT HER PRETTY QUICKLY AFTER GETTING HER NUMBER: WAIT NO MORE THAN 2 DAYS.

Why?

You want to keep the momentum going. She probably won’t even remember your name the day after you’ve met her.

This brings me to my next point.

LEAVE YOUR NAME, BECAUSE SHE MAY NOT REMEMBER YOU.

Like…. leave your name at the end of the text message.

CALL BACK TO SOMETHING THAT YOU TALKED ABOUT TOGETHER.

This comes in handy when you can’t think of anything to say, and you’re on the verge of sabotaging yourself. It’s also a good way to get her to respond, because she’ll probably recall what you’re talking about.

SEND HER A LIGHT, FUNNY TEXT.

Elicit her emotions. We’re emotional creatures, so it makes sense to get her to laugh to show interest in you.

Saying things like, “Hey, how are you?” the day after you met her sounds awkward.

TEXT ENOUGH TO KEEP HER INTERESTED.

You may be thinking, “Well, how much is enough?”

How should I know?

What do you think I am, a fucking know-it-all?!

Here’s some insight.

ASSUME SHE LIKES YOU, EVEN IF SHE DOESN’T.

Even if you think she doesn’t like you, act like she does. If you do this, then you’ll be more likely to send a text that she likes, as opposed to a text that comes off as needy.

If it turns out that she doesn’t like you, then tell her to fuck off.

Wait, don’t say that. Let her be the one to say that.

TEASE HER.

What I mean by this is: don’t be like all the other guys who suck up to her. It shows that you put her on a pedestal, and it gives her WAY TOO MUCH VALUE.

An example would be to tease her about what she says or does.

GET TO THE POINT.

You got her number to meet up with her, not to become her texting buddy.

Alright, so there it is. I hope that you found this information useful. Be sure to stay tuned for my next blog on what not to text a girl after you’ve met her.

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The Break Up: 9 Signs You Should Break Up With Your Girlfriend.

 

THE BREAK UP.

I get it: breakups are difficult.

No one likes to be the one to initiate a breakup, because you don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings.

But what about YOUR feelings?

Deep Connection

Are you really willing to go through months, years, or even decades of emotional pain just because you don’t want to upset her?

You are probably that overly nice person.

You’re the person who would rather not mention all the complaining, the jealousy she expresses, the trivial arguments she tries to start….

The list goes on.

You probably grew up being told that it’s not nice to hurt other people’s feelings.

This could have been from family, friends, teachers…

While there is truth to that, you’ve conditioned yourself to hold onto that belief, and to carry it into every aspect of your life.

Whether or not you choose to believe it will not change the fact that it is affecting your emotional health.

The reality is that is you don’t have to put up with all of that.

HERE ARE 9 SIGNS THAT YOU SHOULD END YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH HER:

  1. SHE GETS JEALOUS IF YOU FIND OTHER GIRLS ATTRACTIVE.

There’s nothing wrong with finding other girls attractive. After all, you find her attractive, right? It’s as if she thinks that she’s the only girl in the world that you should find attractive, and that otherwise it means that she’s somehow less attractive.

To make matters worse, she has a double standard, and suddenly she can comment on how hot she thinks the guy from The Bachelor is… RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU!

  1. SHE OBESESSIVELY ASKS YOU THE LAST NAME OF YOUR PREVIOUS GIRLFRIEND.

This is something that is best to consider early in the relationship. When your girlfriend constantly wants to know the last name of your previous girlfriend, it shows signs of insecurity on her part. You can bet that this will continue throughout the relationship unless you make the smart decision to ditch her now.

  1. YOU CHOOSE TO SPEND MORE TIME AT HOME OR WITH YOUR FRIENDS THAN WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND.

This shows that you are avoiding the problems in your relationship. She just won’t stop complaining, and you’d rather not be around her—which is understandable. Unless you end it now, you’d better make sleeping arrangements on your friend’s couch.

  1. SHE GETS MAD AT YOU WHEN SHE SEES A PHOTO OF YOU AND YOUR EX ON FACEBOOK, AND IT’S NOT EVEN ON YOUR PAGE.

This comes into play when you finally give her the last name of your ex, and she spies on her Facebook page. This should seem pretty obvious, but it may not be so obvious to some people.

  1. SHE “NEEDS” YOU TO BE WITH HER 24/7.

This shows obvious signs of insecurity and a lack of independence on her part. You’re supposed to be part of her life, not the whole thing.

  1. YOU START TO LOSE FOCUS ON YOUR OWN LIFE.

If you do give in to her demands and spend every day with her, you may start to lose your focus on your own goals, such as your college and career paths. You might even stop participating in activities that you once enjoyed, or seeing friends you used to hang out with.

  1. YOU FEEL LIKE YOU CAN’T EXPRESS YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU’RE AFRAID SHE’LL LASH OUT OR BE MISUNDERSTANDING.

There’s nothing more important in maintaining a healthy, loving relationship than the ability to freely express yourself to your partner, no matter the circumstances. If she’s not understanding of your emotions, then it’s time to break up with her.

  1. SHE SUSPECTS THAT YOU MAY BE CHEATING ON HER, EVEN THOUGH THERE’S NO EVIDENCE.

What’s a relationship without trust at its foundation? Don’t ask me. If she can’t even trust that you’re going home after hanging out with her, then she obviously has trust issues. That’s her problem, not yours.

  1. SHE’S NOT WILLING TO CHANGE.

You can consider this a last resort. Any one of these signs can be easily changed if she’s willing to make the change. If, for whatever reason, she is unwilling to do so, and you’ve exhausted all your options, then it’s time to break up with her.

Does any of this resonate with you? If it does, make the best choice for yourself and live free.

 

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Online Dating Profile Photos to Get You a Date!

 

ONLINE DATING.

Sigh…

Profile photos… The MOST important aspect of your online dating profile.

Why is that? Why are photos the make-or-break point, more important than everything else… more important than your bio, your hobbies, your interests, your goals and aspirations?

Why aren’t those things enough? Why do these stupid profile photos have to determine our fate as to whether a girl will show interest in us?

I’ll tell you why.

It’s because of all of those stupid Abercrombie & Fitch and Victoria’s Secret models!

It’s because of the endless supply of what PERFECTION should look like!

We never asked for it to be this way. However, this is what was given to us, so we must act accordingly. A profile photo is your first point of contact, and if it’s not looking good, then you can forget about a girl sending you the first message. Although it can happen once in a while—it actually happened to me yesterday. Who knew?

If you’re thinking about crafting the perfect conversation starter, but your profile photos are lacking, then you can expect no response from her.

Fortunately, I was able to do some field research to find out EXACTLY what a girl is looking for in your profile photos.

Have photos of yourself participating in an activity, like jet skiing or skydiving. Also, have a photo of yourself with your friends, showing her that you have a social life.


Girls love a guy who is exciting, and who offers them a sense of what it would be like if they got to know you.

Have four or more photos.

The more the better. This gives girls a great overview of who you are. Including a visual to match your bio, hobbies, interests, and professional life greatly enhances your profile, giving you a competitive edge over the other guys.

Display a sense of pride, as opposed to a sense of happiness.

You may be asking yourself, “What does he mean by displaying a sense of pride as opposed to a sense of happiness?”

I’m glad you asked! 🙂

It’s sort of like you’re smiling, but you’re not smiling. Your teeth aren’t showing, and you’re coming off as confident. Take a look at the photo below.

This is what I’m talking about. This guy clearly knows what it means to display a sense of pride and confidence. After all, he is a professional model!

Smile without showing your teeth. Look at the camera.

For more in-depth analysis, see the above photo. 🙂

Pose with your cat, or dog, or both.

I mean, seriously… do you really need me to explain this one?!

Alright, I will.

Girls absolutely LOVE when a guy shows that he is an affectionate, warm, and caring person. And if a girl doesn’t like that, then, well, you might want to skip her.

Haven’t you ever seen those girls on Tinder with a short description that says:

I only swiped right for your dog.

In other words, she likes that you have a compassionate and caring side… Or maybe she really did only swipe right for your dog.

This also gives her a preview of what she can expect from you when you cuddle her in your arms.

Make sure that your photos are accurate and recent.

If you don’t like the way that you look now, it isn’t going to help you to provide photos that are from years ago when you looked “physically fit.”

You don’t have to tailor your photos to what you think girls want. That would be detracting from who you are as a person. The goal is not to change who you are, it’s to optimize who you are.

If you build it, she will come.

 

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How to Get a Girl to Like You: Free Dating Advice For Guys.

 

How to Get a Girl to Like You.

If you’re new to online dating or if you’ve been in the game for some time, you know how frustrating it can be to send initial messages to girls without getting any response.

If you are like most guys, you may give up after the first attempt. Or, even if you stick it out for a bit, you will eventually give up, thinking to yourself, “What am I doing wrong? Is there some kind of secret to getting girls to respond to me? Why is this so frustrating?!”

I’m here to tell you that I feel your frustration! When did it become so difficult to talk to girls? Was there some kind of evolutional change to the way they think?

Although that thought may be entertaining, it is highly unlikely. So who’s to blame for this? Drum roll please………

THE INTERNET!

Think about that for a minute.

Okay.

Since the rise of the internet, there have been tons of online dating sites and social media platforms that have been conveniently giving girls endless options of their “ideal guy” to choose from.

This feeling like there are unlimited options has made it increasingly difficult for us to compete. The days of simple conversation starters like “Hey” or,”How’s your day been?” are long gone. And they’re not coming back either.

Let’s face it. You absolutely need to walk into the online dating world with ammunition up your sleeve. Rest assured, it’s not your fault that you may not have these “particular set of skills.” Those of you who have seen the movie Taken know what I’m talking about. 🙂

Fortunately, I have done some field research to effectively guide you in the direction of success. First, I’ve compiled a list of things NOT to say to a girl in an opening line of conversation. Take a look at what I’ve learned below:

I dislike when they instantly comment on my looks. I also hate when guys call me hun or sweetie or anything like that.


You might think that a girl would actually like that you’re complimenting her on her looks, but believe it or not, she hears these kinds of things ALL THE TIME. Please, stay away from any kind of “cutesy talk” as well because you most likely will never hear from her again.

Oh another thing is a lot of guys will message me to tell me how I could look more attractive. For example, I said hi to one guy and his exact response was, “Grow your hair long, wear more makeup, and fix your teeth. YAH WELCOME”

Although this is probably one of those rare instances where someone goes completely AWOL and says something that no girl would respond to, this conversation starter actually happened.

If you’re one of these people, then you need some serious fine tuning on your conversational skills. Lack of fine tuning will immediately result in a not so bright future for you in the online dating world!

Never leave it so they have nothing to respond to. Ask unique questions besides, “what’s up” or any variation of that. It’s boring and a million other guys already asked.

As I mentioned earlier, you want to stay away from vague, uninteresting things. Let me restate what was just said,

It’s boring and a million other guys already asked.

Did you get that?

BOOOOORRRRRIIIINNNNGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, so enough of what not to say to a girl. Let’s get to what will give you the highest chance of success for a girl showing interest in you!

If you want women to respond to you, you must show interest in their hobbies and ask questions that encourage the flow of the conversation.

This is so important because girls are always looking for something new and interesting. They don’t want boring. So don’t be that boring guy! Keep asking questions, and you’ll NEVER run out of things to say.

I like when a guy actually attempts to initiate normal conversation about something in my bio.

This may seem self explanatory. However, this is something that most girls say is overlooked. Girls don’t care about how much money you have, what kind of cars you drive, how nice of a house you have, etc. They care about what made you interested in them. Yeah, that sounds a little selfish on their part, but can you blame them? If they want entertainment, entertain them. Show them that you’re paying attention to more than just their photos.

By now your’e probably wondering if it’s really that simple. You may be saying to yourself, “All they want me to do is show interest in them?”

Well, there’s more to it than that. Keep in mind what not to say, however, and you’re on the right path.

The fastest way to online dating success?

Keep the conversation focused on them. Be unique and interesting. After all, there are hundreds, thousands of other messages that they are getting on a daily basis. Why should she respond to you? Answer that, and you’re way ahead of the game.

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