Profile photos… The MOST important aspect of your online dating profile.
Why is that? Why are photos the make-or-break point, more important than everything else… more important than your bio, your hobbies, your interests, your goals and aspirations?
Why aren’t those things enough? Why do these stupid profile photos have to determine our fate as to whether a girl will show interest in us?
I’ll tell you why.
It’s because of all of those stupid Abercrombie & Fitch and Victoria’s Secret models!
It’s because of the endless supply of what PERFECTION should look like!
We never asked for it to be this way. However, this is what was given to us, so we must act accordingly. A profile photo is your first point of contact, and if it’s not looking good, then you can forget about a girl sending you the first message. Although it can happen once in a while—it actually happened to me yesterday. Who knew?
If you’re thinking about crafting the perfect conversation starter, but your profile photos are lacking, then you can expect no response from her.
Fortunately, I was able to do some field research to find out EXACTLY what a girl is looking for in your profile photos.
Have photos of yourself participating in an activity, like jet skiing or skydiving. Also, have a photo of yourself with your friends, showing her that you have a social life.
Have four or more photos.
The more the better. This gives girls a great overview of who you are. Including a visual to match your bio, hobbies, interests, and professional life greatly enhances your profile, giving you a competitive edge over the other guys.
Display a sense of pride, as opposed to a sense of happiness.
You may be asking yourself, “What does he mean by displaying a sense of pride as opposed to a sense of happiness?”
I’m glad you asked! 🙂
It’s sort of like you’re smiling, but you’re not smiling. Your teeth aren’t showing, and you’re coming off as confident. Take a look at the photo below.
This is what I’m talking about. This guy clearly knows what it means to display a sense of pride and confidence. After all, he is a professional model!
Smile without showing your teeth. Look at the camera.
For more in-depth analysis, see the above photo. 🙂
Pose with your cat, or dog, or both.
I mean, seriously… do you really need me to explain this one?!
Alright, I will.
Girls absolutely LOVE when a guy shows that he is an affectionate, warm, and caring person. And if a girl doesn’t like that, then, well, you might want to skip her.
Haven’t you ever seen those girls on Tinder with a short description that says:
I only swiped right for your dog.
In other words, she likes that you have a compassionate and caring side… Or maybe she really did only swipe right for your dog.
This also gives her a preview of what she can expect from you when you cuddle her in your arms.
Make sure that your photos are accurate and recent.
If you don’t like the way that you look now, it isn’t going to help you to provide photos that are from years ago when you looked “physically fit.”
You don’t have to tailor your photos to what you think girls want. That would be detracting from who you are as a person. The goal is not to change who you are, it’s to optimize who you are.
If you build it, she will come.